Obviously I know you are not suppose to list registry information in a weddng invitation…and I am not sure how I feel about this. A friend of mine did our invitations for us with my basic guidelines. She suggested we add a card that list’s our wedsite so that guests can more easily obtain the hotel, directions, and REGISTRY information. I thought this was fine for her to do on a separate card within the envelop…but I am questioning her wording of the card:
Visit Ashley and Chris’s wedding website for more information on hotels, directions, and registry:
www.blahblah.com
Basically, I wasn’t sure if this was O.K. and figured she would have just said something like “for more information vist: www…” rather than mentioning the REGISTRY. She is generally very etiquette savvy and when I asked her if she thought it could be tacky she insisted that this is an acceptable way to do it since it’s not actually on the invitation and most people these days would rather just have that information readily available. Also, obviously our wedding website mentions that our guest’s presence is “present” enough for us but that we registered for their convenience…so hopefully that helps?
I am still unsure how I feel about this and am considering leaving the card out? If it helps, I doubt many of our families and friends would be offended – but I wouldn’t want to rest on that.
How acceptable do you think the card’s wording is?
I would not think it as rude if guests did not bring a gift. I know that many will bring gifts, and that is their choice…but I am not personally a bride that would think twice about these things. Also, this curiosity isn’t a “battle” for me, just a concern because it’s my choice to not want to offend anyone when I view my wedding as a day to not only celebrate the love I have found but my love for everyone that has helped me along the way to have this chance. Thanks for your answer.
Thank you guys. I think I would have chosen not to mention it but rather just mention that the site contains other detailed information about the wedding – but since my friend has already printed the cards and I would not want to waste them or her time I will go along with the wording. I wasn’t sure if she had already printed them when I asked the question.
i think its fine– but if youre worried, talk to your friend about taking that out.
Why are you stressing over this? You need to pick your battles in all of this wedding planning and this is NOT one of them.
There is nothing wrong with the wording… guests are obviously going to bring you gifts… why is everyone so secretive about money and gifts with weddings? But if they DIDN’T bring a gift you would look at is as rude… UGH! annoying
i don’t see what the big deal is , the last wedding invite i got had registry card in it and honestly i didn’t think a thing of it
Some people don’t really care about etiquette anymore. If you are uncomfortable with it just have her change it to “For more information about the wedding please visit ilikecheese.com
I actually think its great worded like that. While you may think it is rude implying the registry. I think its a great idea to add that detail in so people know where you are registered.
I went to a wedding and ended up just giving them a card with money because no one bothered to say hey im registered at walmart or target. I mean was i just supposed to cross my fingers and i hope i went to the right store?
I think it’s fine… we have a website with information but sent the website with similiar wording on our save the date cards vs. our actual wedding invites.
I think it is fine but if you are really worried about it have her change it.
I agree – registry information does not go in the invitation. I can see putting a card to your wedsite for up to the minute details, and hotel information. (if the info for your registry is on the site should be okay) – but I see you not wanting to “advertise” your registry. People know how to find out where you’re registered.
My understanding is that it’s now “okay” to put registry info in with the shower invitation.
Truthfully
Even though your website is very polite with saying that you arent directly asking for gifts. I have to say I would defignatally leave the card out. BUT… people would like your website. I mean im sure you put alot of effort into making the website really nice. You can make a small business sized card that JUST has your wedding website on it. Make it the same colour as in your wedding and even throw in a small design that ties in with your decore.. You can get the paper at any craft store.. and there are templates for business sized cards available on any typing program. Specifically microsoft word.
Its not like it is as rude as “Ashley & Chris are registered at ….”.
And I’ll be honest with you, I included my wedding website address with a notation “for additional information about the wedding please visit our website at www.xyz.com” and NOBODY seemed to look at it. Several people asked me if I could send them a link to my registry – - I told them it was on my wedding website and would they mind if I just sent them the link to the site.
Anyway, I don’t think its a huge deal, and I think most guests won’t go to the site unless you are specific in telling them that the link includes hotels, directions and registry – - so they know to go looking there.
I wouldn’t be offended by it being there.
I can understand your point. But if they are already printed, it’s probably alright to go ahead and include them. If they are not printed, it’s probably best to word it the way you want it worded.
Another issue, this friend needed to have sent proofs for you to look at before printing anything. It’s your wedding, after all.
If she didn’t send proofs, but went ahead and printed them, you might ask her to print another set of cards that are worded like you want. There is nothing wrong with asking for them to be redone since she didn’t have your permission on her wording.
Registry info in invites is rude and only given out via word of mouth. Directions are very helpful though. Hotel info should have been given out with the save the dates. Even then, it’s something that guests can figure out on their own. Website info does not belong in the invitation. It can be sent in the save the date info.
Tell the friend to redo the information properly. Just have a direction card and leave it at that.
First, I don’t get why people would ask you why this is a big deal. It would bother me, simply because it’s so unnecessary! (Not to mention an etiquette violation). Does she really think people won’t figure out the registry info is at the website?
I like the idea of the card itself, but in her job, she should know better than to say this is ok because others do it.
To answer your question, I’d put it in the middle between massively gauche (like those idiot poems begging for honeymoon cash) and the other extreme, where the registry is not mentioned at all on the invite. I honestly wouldn’t blame you if you told her to redo them if she could do it quickly. She really should know better.
I think it’s fine because it references directions and hotel, not just the registry. Don’t worry about it.